INTRODUCTION
Marriage is the state of being united as spouses in a consensual and contractual relationship recognized by law.
Marriage occurs after when both intending partners decided to spend the rest of their lives with each other. However, there are some Marital realities that must be understood before taking the bold decision of marrying one another, if these phenomenal aren’t maximized, the relationship wouldn’t last longer. This discuss will enable prospective spouses to accommodate the real picture of his/her partner after marriage and profound solution to it.
The first five to seven years are the most challenging of many marriages. They are the time that the couple spends getting to know one another better and adjusting to each other’s habits and personalities. Below, are some of the main problems couples face in the early years that result to divorce in many marriages today and some possible solution.
YOUR SPOUSE HAS A WEAKNESS
It should be noted that only God has no weakness. Every rose flower has its own thorn. If you focus too much on your spouse weakness you can’t get the best out of his/her strength and you will never see any positivist in him/her. Overlook those weaknesses with your patience and understanding. You should also know that you have your weaknesses he/she is nursing. So, identify those weaknesses and learn how to cope with it for the purpose of a Tranquil Marital life.
YOUR SPOUSE HAS A DARK HISTORY None of you is an Angel, therefore avoid digging your spouse’s past. Never threaten him/her with it! The past has gone and never remind each other what will make you both cry!
WHO IS IN CHARGE? this is one of the tug of war between couples over who is in control in the relationship. This however led some feminist among women to a stalemate in disagreement, violence and confrontations in their marriages.
TO MARRY IS TO DECLARE A WAR
When you marry, you must declare war against the enemies of marriage such as Prayerlessness, Laziness, third party influence, stinginess, stubbornness, wife battery, Fornication, Night clubbing, Unforgiveness etc…. Be ready to fight to maintain your marriage zone.
EVERY MARRIAGE HAS DIFFERENT LEVEL OF SUCCESS Don’t ever compare your marriage with anyone! every marriage has its specific challenge. To avoid the stresses in marriage, Be Patient! Work hard and with time your marriage dreams will come true. Don’t be in haste! Your time is coming.
EVERY MARRIAGE HAS ITS OWN CHALLENGES
Marriage isn’t a bed of rose. Every shining marriage has gone through its own test of hot and excruciating fire. True love is proved during the trying periods. Remember your promises to each other to be there with your selfless service under the sun and in the rain
To marry is to take risk.
You can’t get a 100% of the person you desire.
THERE IS NO PERFECT MARRIAGE
there isn’t any ready made marriage anywhere. Both spouse will volunteer and sacrifice to make it perfect on a daily basis.
Written By: Okeshola O. Qazeem (D’ Core)
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