MAINTAINING YOUR DIGNITY AS RELEVANT LADY

MEANING AND IMPORTANCE OF DIGNITY

Dignity is important because it allows individuals and groups to feel valued and connected with others around them.

The most common response people offer is that dignity is about respect.

To the contrary, dignity is not the same as respect.

Dignity is our inherent value and worth as human beings; everyone is born with it.

Respect, on the other hand, is earned through one’s actions.

Dignity involves a mutual effort among people to listen, understand opinions and values and include one another in conversations. It is the conceptual basis for the formulation and execution of human rights and is neither granted by the society nor can it be legitimately granted by the society.

HOW TO GROW DIGNITY AND SELF RESPECT

It may not be easy at first and takes a lot of deliberate effort to put forth the dignity and self-respect you deserve.

1. Make sure not to worry what other people think and stay true to your core values and beliefs.

2. Do well to Work on changing your perceptions – of yourself and others.

3. Hold yourself to ambitious standards; Never do something halfway or to the least of your ability. Pride yourself on following through on your word and mean what you say.

4. Believe in your choices once you make them

5. Work hard and acknowledge your efforts It is the conceptual basis for the formulation and execution of human rights and is neither granted by the society nor can it be legitimately granted by the society.

WHAT DOES IT MEAN TO MAINTAIN DIGNITY?

Remember that Dignity is concerned with how people feel, think and behave in relation to the worth or value of themselves and others.

You can lose Dignity at any time whether by merit, status, etc.

Though inherent, and slightly unlike Respect which is rather earned, it can be regained if lost…

To maintain your Dignity therefore means to keep at guarding it so it doesn’t get lost or diminished anytime.

HOW TO MAINTAIN YOUR DIGNITY AS A RELEVANT LADY

A yearning for dignity lies at the core of our desires and aspirations. This is the single strongest force that shapes all relationships and interactions –- personal, social or professional. Each of us wants to be treated well and with dignity.

Indeed, the amount of indignity you give in to is a measure of your lack of self-worth, while what you can give up to maintain your dignity is an indication of maturity and self-confidence.

How many times have you given in to demands that go against your grain just to ‘maintain the peace’ or keep a relationship going?

How many times have you set aside dignity and chased after someone who refuses to receive your calls, answer texts or meet you?

Have you given in to abuse in the belief that you deserved it, or hoping the abuser will repent?

Have you made choices you do not believe in just to please others?

Or, submitted to unfairness at office because you need the job?

In all these choices, you gave short shrift to your own sense of self-esteem.

 Whatever else the consequence, giving up your dignity can never bring you happiness or satisfaction.

You maintain your Dignity when you stop telling a loved one what he or she wishes to hear and rather tell them what you really wish to say, when you start changing your behavior to suit another — you are harming not just your own dignity, but also his or hers!

To maintain dignity in a relationship, it is important to draw your boundaries

Particularly in intimate relationships, where you are most vulnerable! We hear that true love presupposes trust, but good sense and experience warn against exposing your chinks and being over-familiar.

Whenever called upon to take a tough decision – personal or professional – keep this one thing — your dignity sacrosanct, you will never regret the choices you made because you will have been true to yourself.

Try not to start planning your day around the activities of another person, trying to accommodate his or her schedule and idiosyncrasies, you are losing dignity.

And certainly, to maintain your dignity you have to be true to yourself.

When a relationship is not allowing you to be true to yourself and erodes your self-esteem, it will cause immense distress as time goes on.

Dignity is the absolute last sacrifice anyone should ever be asked to make, because it erodes one’s very core, wiping out one’s identity.

Do not exchange dignity for anything else you may think you need badly; it will boomerang in the long-term.

And yet, there are those amongst us who willingly make this sacrifice daily, letting go a bit of themselves slowly over the years, till a cynicism and bitterness sets in — surprising the receiver in the relationship by its sudden appearance and depth.

A man who believed in the sacrificial, serving avatar he demanded of and got from you through life is shocked by your sudden need to assert yourself!

BENEFITS OF HAVING DIGNITY

Two major things happen when you build up a culture of Dignity: conflicts and gossip.

Experience has shown that most conflicts in the workplace have an underlying, unaddressed violations of dignity at their core.

 A robust gossip network also demonstrates that people do not feel safe to speak up when something bad happens to them and the negative effects of those violations go straight to the gossip mill.

Dignity helps leaders create a culture of dignity, it is important to have not only the interpersonal skills in honoring dignity, but also to be mindful of the importance of developing policies that honor dignity.

CONCLUSION

In all like as earlier said, do not trade your Dignity on the altar of Sacrifice.

You only get to regret much later; one sure thing is Dignity lost can definitely be regained through the Holy Spirit. He’s DIGNITY Personified!

Written by: Miss. Adediran Adetobi A.